Resources & Inspiration

Books, blogs, articles, Facebook pages, podcasts… there are endless resources for those on a journey with children. These are my favorites.

Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishment to Love and Reason

by Alfie Kohn

Ironically, I have nothing but praise for this book. Alfie Kohn clearly and articulately uncovers why we should and how we can develop a “working with” rather than a “doing to” approach to raising our kids. Deep connection and growth becomes available when we’re able to move beyond both positive and negative reinforcement to a place of unconditional love and encouragement. Also available as an audiobook, read the by the author.

ParentSpeak: What's Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children – and What to Say Instead

by Jennifer Lehr

I found myself nodding my head the entire time I was reading this book. Jennifer Lehr addresses many of the most common phrases you’ll hear when adults address children – “Good job!” “Be careful!” “Share!” – and offers conscious, respectful, practical alternatives. I love Jennifer’s authenticity and conversational tone, and her ideas are powerful and beneficial.

It's OK to Go Up the Slide: Renegade Rules for Raising Confident and Creative Kids

by Heather Shumaker

As a parent of two high-energy, very physical kids, I sometimes fantasize about keeping several copies of this book on hand for the parents who give me concerned looks at the park. 😉

Is hovering over our children and reminding them to be careful really keeping them safer? Heather Shumaker offers a refreshing and evidence-based look at risk and independence, technology and screens, school and homework, and more.

Jared's Cool-Out Space

by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Ashlee Wilkin

This is an excellent book for both parents and kids. It illustrates naming and validating feelings (while maintaining limits about actions), involving children in their own self-care, and is also a practical guide for assisting a child in creating their own “cool-out space” (or whatever they choose to call it) for Positive Time Out. Even if your child(ren) choose not to create a cool-out space of their own, the story is sweet and empowering.

Stay tuned for more favorites!